Self help topic

Moving forward

Self-help, information and support on how to continue moving forward, disclose your offending and build a fulfilling life.

Moving forward, talking about past mistakes and creating a fulfilling life requires courage and support. These sections will help you face the future, build a strong support system and engage in positive activities.

Be kind to yourself, set realistic goals, and stay accountable. Embrace a healthy lifestyle and be patient with the process. Each step brings you closer to a brighter future.

Help with research

We are looking for people who have sexual thoughts or feelings towards their children to fill in a survey. It is anonymous and you will not be asked about your past or present sexual behaviour. The survey will take around 10 minutes to complete.

Understanding consequences and dealing with media impact

Being convicted of a sexual offence has lots of significant consequences. One of the main outcomes is being involved with the police and the criminal justice system.

  • Legal consequences of a conviction for a sexual offence in Hong Kong
    Being convicted of a sexual offence has lots of significant consequences.

    Other consequences
    There are many other consequences that you need to consider.

    Dealing with the media
    The media don’t publish information about every online child sexual abuse offence but people often tell us they’re worried about it when a loved one is arrested.

    How to tell people about your sexual offences
    It can be very difficult to talk about sex, particularly sexual offences.

    Talking to different people about sexual offences
    When discussing the situation with your partner, remember all the skills we’ve discussed.

Relapse prevention

Old patterns of behaviour can be returned to, especially at times of stress. This section is all about relapse prevention – how to prevent a relapse, and if you do slip, how to pick yourself up and get building again.

  • What is relapse?
    A relapse is slipping back into former ways of life, after you have built changes for the better.

    When is relapse more likely
    Relapses often happen when you’re experiencing negative thoughts and feelings, for example, boredom, anxiety, depression or loneliness.

    Warning signs of relapse
    Warning signs relating to sexual offending can include physical, behavioural and emotional changes in both adults and children.

    Exercise: relapse prevention
    Write a list of your physical, behavioural and emotional warning signs and answer questions.

    No going back
    The last section might have seemed a bit negative but it’s important to be realistic – those risks and temptations do exist.

    My relapse prevention plan – reflection
    Spend some time identifying your own risk factors so you are aware of what they are and how to manage them.

Building a good life

People from all over the world tend to want similar things in life in order to feel happy and satisfied. When people are happy with their lives, they’re less likely to get into trouble.

  • Good Lives Model
    The Good Lives Model tells us that everyone needs to feel satisfied in a few different areas of their life to feel good.

    Beware of obstacles
    Sometimes it can be really hard to meet your needs and there can be things that get in the way.

More self-help topics available

Many people who have engaged in online sexual behaviour involving children believe that there is a ‘grey area’ between what is legal and illegal. There is not.

These sections will help you learn healthy ways to communicate, express yourself and challenge negative self-talk to improve your self-esteem.

Self-help, information and support for people troubled by their sexual thoughts about children and young people.

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